tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post6621561482260610374..comments2023-07-06T04:28:27.188-04:00Comments on Our Little Apartment: I'm Not A Pretty Crier, Either.Ashley // Our Little Apartmenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13452050735921065657noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-23749299244773700132008-11-05T18:38:00.000-05:002008-11-05T18:38:00.000-05:00Oh, hugs hon!!! I have so been there with my dad,...Oh, hugs hon!!! I have so been there with my dad, and after last night, all I can say to him is take THAT! And of course, now I hope the next four years don't prove me wrong ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-73259009057681153532008-11-05T09:40:00.000-05:002008-11-05T09:40:00.000-05:00I am sorry to hear that your dad’s response was no...I am sorry to hear that your dad’s response was not what you had hoped for and that it hurt you so much. It is hard to be on opposing sides from your parents in any situation, but especially in politics during an election year. I am happy, though, that your mom validated your feelings and point-of-view, even though hers was different, and that you have your sister to talk to. Hang tough and stick to your convictions. I know I’m a stranger, but I feel certain that your online friends are proud of you for standing up for yourself to your parents without being disrespectful. This too, shall pass.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-66252240029306102442008-11-04T18:24:00.000-05:002008-11-04T18:24:00.000-05:00I agree! The great thing about this country is th...I agree! The great thing about this country is that we CAN have different opinions, so we need to learn how to respect other people's views, even if they are different than ours!Auburn Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05645676944053749550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-3194216159773892462008-11-04T17:46:00.000-05:002008-11-04T17:46:00.000-05:00I know exactly what you mean!! i'm not a pretty cr...I know exactly what you mean!! i'm not a pretty crier either, LOL... and today was a rough one for me also... we'll get through it!!Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13297662034510134776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-32565665796248618362008-11-04T14:24:00.000-05:002008-11-04T14:24:00.000-05:00hey guess what? i'm sure you are a beautiful crie...hey guess what? i'm sure you are a beautiful crier. i'm so proud of you for standing up for what you what and what you believe in when you were up against your family. i always have the hardest time when it comes to my family, they intimidate the crap out of me and i don't like conflict very much.<BR/><BR/>brightside? tomorrow, it's all over. i am the ONLY person in my family to vote obama, and it's a real shame. they are so closed minded and so set in their ways to only vote along their party lines that they never even took a look at the big picture. they all told me i was a "follower" and that obama was a "cult leader". not fair. <BR/><BR/>chin up girl, i hope today is an amazing day for you... we're making HISTORY! <BR/><BR/>xoxo<BR/><BR/>ps. online friends? BEST. EVER. i don't know where i'd be without all of you guys!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-8533694686938235412008-11-04T14:19:00.000-05:002008-11-04T14:19:00.000-05:00You are awesome for sticking up for yourself. This...You are awesome for sticking up for yourself. This is almost over! I hope you feel better after speaking your mind. Parents are just Parents, they will always think they know what's best for us. I'm pretty sure there was no harm intended. Have a great day!!Britneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12867962575286434334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-23330967099370094012008-11-04T13:12:00.000-05:002008-11-04T13:12:00.000-05:00Hi girlie ...I just emailed you ... but I wanted t...Hi girlie ...<BR/>I just emailed you ... but I wanted to add that I'm glad your coworker tried to make things as un-awkward as possible (does that phrase even make sense?)... and yuck - crying headaches are the worst! ... Oh, and one more thing -- I think the email you wrote your parents was super nice and respectful, well thought out and very polite. ... Hmmm. Maybe your mom will help change your dad's opinion so he will show that he's proud of you and respects your opinions ... I wish you the best of luck regarding your relationship with your family over politics. Much love to you! XOXOsarah marie phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00209487321334296169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-48784655577658572502008-11-04T11:47:00.000-05:002008-11-04T11:47:00.000-05:00I am sorry that your family was not very understan...I am sorry that your family was not very understanding. I have had to be very firm with friends and family members about not sending me ridiculous political emails. They have all (eventually) forgiven me, but it sucks to feel judged by people you care about.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08417356206569429078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-40883122646251645312008-11-04T11:20:00.000-05:002008-11-04T11:20:00.000-05:00oohh i'm hoping you have a much better day today =...oohh i'm hoping you have a much better day today =)<BR/><BR/>i felt so badly for you through twitter, but i didn't want to keep asking you what was going on.<BR/><BR/>sending you good thoughts today.thatShortchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16288631989393793592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-57152324218328565102008-11-04T09:51:00.000-05:002008-11-04T09:51:00.000-05:00Good for you in standing up for your views! And to...Good for you in standing up for your views! And today is election day so hopefully the worst of it is over!Sarah Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00228893364410742276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-50038126791574549182008-11-04T09:23:00.000-05:002008-11-04T09:23:00.000-05:00As the daughter of two conservatives (one a straig...As the daughter of two conservatives (one a straight-ticket Republican); I definitely understand how you feel. I'm sorry there seems to be a considerable amount of tension as a result of the differences among your family, and good for you for standing up for yourself!cjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18338468186546285399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-60686205703475808502008-11-04T06:39:00.000-05:002008-11-04T06:39:00.000-05:00*sigh*Where to begin with this one? There's so man...*sigh*<BR/><BR/>Where to begin with this one? There's so many things I want say, but they just aren't the perfect things to say. <BR/><BR/>I can't say that I know what it's like to have parents with opposing view points on political issues, but I can say that I know that desire to please your parents in every way possible...without forgetting who YOU are. It's a very scary thing. Especially when you are SO close with them. <BR/><BR/>Example: Telling my parents I had a partner. As liberal as my parents are, this was the scariest thing I've ever had to do because I didn't want to crush their dreams of their only daughter having that wedding day and bearing grandchildren for them. But I couldn't lie about love. I had to tell them. I was lucky because they were completely understanding and have taken her in like their own daughter. Some, aren't so lucky. I couldn't imagine losing my parents love and respect over LOVE. <BR/><BR/>So, kudos to you for sticking up for what you believe in, to your parents. That takes courage and you know, they may not always agree with you, but they will ALWAYS love you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00936031675267577599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-61590759498693082052008-11-04T00:00:00.000-05:002008-11-04T00:00:00.000-05:00aww hun, what a rough day. I am really proud of yo...aww hun, what a rough day. I am really proud of you for being so honest and level headed, even though others might not see it as suchSarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240956769826578754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-4209603931610861092008-11-03T23:37:00.000-05:002008-11-03T23:37:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry you are going through this right now....I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. As I've said before I'm going similar issues with my family. They pretty much think it's the end of the world if Obama becomes president. That might be a little over dramatic, but that's how I feel. It makes me upset tirhink I'm "going against" my family and angry that they don't support me in my decisions. I'm not bashing them for voting the way they chose to. Anyway... Many hugs are sent your way and ihope you feel better soon. Take care honey!!!Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00127352109864311703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-56646067222506161812008-11-03T23:26:00.000-05:002008-11-03T23:26:00.000-05:00Oh my Ash,I am so sorry. There are no other words ...Oh my Ash,<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry. There are no other words to say to you other than that. I think we are all going through generation-relation pains when it comes to this election. Keep your head high. One day you will tell your grandchildren and children how you stood up to people you loved, and it very well may help you understand and empathize with their stances in the future. All in all a good life lesson. The hard times always are.<BR/><BR/>Much love and hugs.Stephanie Olsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14751332107330501307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-33916518993794018552008-11-03T22:59:00.000-05:002008-11-03T22:59:00.000-05:00Good for you for sticking up for yourself! I find ...Good for you for sticking up for yourself! I find it so hard to stand up for myself when it comes to my parents because... well, they're my PARENTS. I've lived for so long thinking that everything they say is right... & now that I am forming my own opinions & doing things they don't like, it's difficult for me to live, knowing that I have disappointed them. (I hope I'm making sense.)<BR/><BR/>I think what you did was very brave & very wise! It's very admirable. Especially to someone like me who is dealing with crazy drama regarding my own father right now.<BR/><BR/>Continue to be strong! & don't worry so much about crying in public. ;] It happens to the best of us.<BR/><BR/><3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-1974391442984130682008-11-03T22:51:00.000-05:002008-11-03T22:51:00.000-05:00Wow that's so hard. I would have cried too. I am s...Wow that's so hard. I would have cried too. I am so grateful my family is on the same political page as me. I find it really sad when we can't discuss these important issues without disrespecting each other but so often that happens in political debates. <BR/><BR/>I hope things improve. <BR/><BR/>Especially when Obama wins.<BR/><BR/>:-)Sizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00182860438430294750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-75206343616486013872008-11-03T22:10:00.000-05:002008-11-03T22:10:00.000-05:00It's hard not to feel judged when political e-mail...It's hard not to feel judged when political e-mails show up in the in-box. (Don't discount the hormonal exaggeration factor, either.)<BR/><BR/>This may come off as a**vice, but to save my own sanity, I just use the delete key when I see certain subject lines. Nobody has to know I'm not reading them, much as I love them!Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-26141375908145403162008-11-03T21:43:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:43:00.000-05:00I am a new reader de-lurking. This I have had some...I am a new reader de-lurking. This I have had some situations lately where I had do stand up for myself with my parents. Somehow so difficult to do. Your mom's note touched me. Thanks for this very honest blog post.Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04764437077561164662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-19470614077443866622008-11-03T21:35:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:35:00.000-05:00oh, ashley, i am so so sorry. i can totally and c...oh, ashley, i am so so sorry. i can totally and completely relate to what you are going through. my father and i have had completely opposite political and social values for my entire life, which, combined with our lack of communication and 3000 miles has severely damaged our relationship. it only got worse when i became a stem cell researcher, which he adamantly opposes and never discusses with me. all i wanted was for him to accept me and be proud of what i have accomplished and all her could do was put himself and his own opinions before our relationship. i wrote a blog post about him recently called "letter to a dream" where basically i wrote out in detail everything i felt and had wanted to say (or hard said) that he would never absorb. it was incredibly therapeutic and i highly recommend it. even if he never reads it, just get all of your feels down on paper to lift that weight off your shoulders. i too am blessed to have a sister who is my best friend and we can call and talk and cry over our relationship with our father, and it always helps.<BR/><BR/>now that i am in therapy i realize i have had many feelings about my father which i never wanted to feel or acknowledge over the years so i just pushed them back. but now i realize that i need to deal with them on my own because i will never change him. i can, however, change the way i feel about him. by talking about him and writing about him i am able to get it all out on my own without causing more damage to our relationship. i am slowly beginning to just accept him for who he is and try to appreciate the good parts. i guess what i am trying to say is that our parents wont be around forever so we need to try to do whatever we can to just enjoy them in this moment, while still being good and true to ourselves.<BR/>let me know if you ever want to chat or ramble on via email: goingtohellforthis@gmail.com<BR/>xoxo<BR/>crystalCrystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02774801574334805372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-26373458509475446482008-11-03T21:32:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:32:00.000-05:00Oh! I'm so sorry you're going through that! I'm ...Oh! I'm so sorry you're going through that! I'm not a pretty crier either, and it is just an awful feeling when you can't hold it in anymore! You're being so strong in your handling of convictions. Crying isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of passion -- that's my mantra when the tears start rolling.<BR/><BR/>It's all over tomorrow. Fingers crossed!Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16603700427096296937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-2319849021970720492008-11-03T21:29:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:29:00.000-05:00My heart was breaking for you earlier on twitter. ...My heart was breaking for you earlier on twitter. It's good you stood up for yourself and tomorrow it will all be over <3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-34010074876102748572008-11-03T21:27:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:27:00.000-05:00I completely agree- there needs to be more respect...I completely agree- there needs to be more respect and less cruelty! Sorry your day was such a rollercoaster of emotions, but that it great that you did get to speak your mind!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-53497156968182561902008-11-03T21:20:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:20:00.000-05:00Oh lovely... what a difficult day you've had! It s...Oh lovely... what a difficult day you've had! It sounds like you've done the right thing and I join everyone else in applauding you for sticking to what you believed. Like Renee said, your family will just have to come to terms with Obama. Fingers crossed.brandyismagichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13926607049802220594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1778470040348949734.post-38912689712011308472008-11-03T21:15:00.000-05:002008-11-03T21:15:00.000-05:00I am REALLY proud of you for sticking by your conv...I am REALLY proud of you for sticking by your convictions despite the disagreeance. I know it's hard to not always have the approval of our parents, but we're our own people. And they're their own people. And for them, it's often much more difficult to bend at will than it is for us.<BR/><BR/>Either way - I wish you the best.Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17795526911040698284noreply@blogger.com